Why do we fall into love? Why is it that we actually fall in love?
Even since I was a little girl, being in love has been the ultimate goal in life. Finding that one person and falling so far in love with him/her that life, itself, seems like a dream. I, 100%, believe that this does exist - no doubt about it, but what are we actually asking from our partner?!
Falling in most senses, means surrendering. So what does surrendering to love mean? Letting someone love you? Ok, I can allow myself that. Allowing someone in? Despite the baggage, I can do that. Granting someone to see all your weaknesses? Yes
I think I have lived through it all... I have dated the younger guy, the bad boy, the nerd, the older man, the complete idiot and the okay guy... Name it and I have dated it. Yet, I don't think I have ever really fallen in love, until recently. So me being who I am, I am sharing with you how I am interpreting love and all the falling that comes with it.
I think, that the only moment you will let yourself fall and surrender in to love with someone is when you stop comparing everything else you have been through to what you have. Seeing those truly blessed moments together and realising that no matter what has happened in your past has brought you here. Falling into love means surrendering yourself to everything you know and everything you are used to, and allowing yourself you explore new territory. By comparing an old love story to something new and different, will suffocate that new relationship with unrealistic expectations. Now this is cliche... but everyone you meet will have some part in your life, that is why they have been put in your path. They might be a scribble in the margin, a sentence, a paragraph, some might even be a chapter - until you meet the person that becomes so intertwined in your life that you put them in the title.
One thing that we have to acknowledge is that no love story is like the other. You are part of building your own fairy tail. Your past will have an influence in how you act and how you go about your life but it cannot define you. Allowing yourself to fall in love will show, your eyes will tell the whole story. The way they fill with admiration, of attraction, of undying feelings for each other. When your eyes twinkle - it's a sign that they are smiling. No words need to be said, but that one look will tell it all.
After writing all of this, I realise how cliché it sounds, but then I can't help to think about these love stories that you hear from your grandparents from when they met - and they just somehow knew that this other human being was the right one for them. Why can't we be as sure today? Why can't we look at another human being and say that you're my missing piece? Are we really this damaged as a society that we are putting people on hold just because we are scared?
Surrendering in to love is probably the most beautiful chemistry that two humans can do - because this is what creates life. Surrendering to love is not a weakness, it's human.