Lust and Love or Love and Lust. What is the difference?
These are probably the two most common feelings to confuse, especially in the beginning of a relationship. Lust and love, however joyous and amazing they make you feel, there is a clear difference between the two, so it is important to differ the two.
When you are in lust, you'll be able to look past the foolishness of your partner. Things are so hot and heavy, that it is easy to look past all those small annoying details that might become an issue further down the line. However, when you are in love, and you truly love them, you want them to be a better person. When it comes to love, constructive criticism is the best, because this will not only help them to be a better person for you, but for themselves too.
Lust is a game, hence, you will play it how you want. Lust is telling your partner what they want to hear, pleasing them and playing it safe, instead of expressing how you really feel. Whereas, love is all about keeping it real. If you do not agree, you say so. Having different views and opinions from your partner, does not mean that you are not a good match, it just means that you are individual people with your own opinions. It is healthy to have a good debate, and it is normal and helpful to see the world from different perspectives.
Lust is all about looks. When you are in lust, your partner will be portrayed as a Greek God or Goddess. It is like you have this perfectly baked chocolate chip cookie, in a perfect round shape, no cracks, and the perfect amount of chocolate chips. However, even these perfect-looking cookies have burnt sides (even if they might not be visible from the get-go). Love, however; your partner will look like a Greek God or Goddess - with a missing arm or leg. Love is about accepting the person for who they are and those small imperfections become perfect. By pretending that your partner is perfect you are just lying to yourself and making up excuses for them, and honestly it is exhausting.
The real difference between lust and love is that when you are in lust, you do not really know the person. You will know their favourite colour and their favourite food, but only the basic things that appear on the surface. When in love, you will know all the small insignificant details. You will know all the surface details, but you will also know why. You will know all those small facial expressions, tones and gestures that make that person who he/she is.
The idea of silence in a lust relationship is awkward. You will always try to fill the silence with nonsense, or better yet, make-out sessions. Whether you are rambling on about random, non important things or you are sucking the face off of your partner, it is not healthy to feel discomfort by silence with your partner. With love, this void is welcome. Why talk when there is nothing to talk about. Love is about understanding that that silence is okay.
Last but not least, lust means that the future is unknown. You are enjoying every moment spent with them. You enjoy the attention, the dates, the messages, but when you look in the long run you don't know if they are the person you want to connect with and build a future with. And love is the complete opposite. Love is when you willing to plan the future with someone, and it is something to look forward to. If you can plan your future, no matter the situation you are in right now, and it gives you something to look forward to, that is a pretty good sign.
Love and lust are two completely different emotions that are constantly mixed up. Whether it is lust or love that you are feeling, it is important that you want to spend time with your partner. Just that when it comes to lust, you are fueled with hormones and with love is another kind of fuel burning with emotions and feelings. It is important to be able to feel and tell the difference, but also not to be afraid of how you actually feel.